"I was looking at you tonight, and you looked so beautiful".
I told him thank you and pondered his words. I was so appreciative to hear them: I never take for granted those kinds of affirmations. I try always to take those declarations to heart -- not because my husband doesn't say them often enough, but because I know that with each compliment, he is showing his love for me.
Last night in particular I was thinking about beauty. I am not beautiful by worldly standards, but my husband thinks I am. And why is that?
I thought about it as we drove home, and realized I could apply the same thought to how I see my husband. Objectively, he is a handsome man (I know I can't exactly be objective, but I KNOW this to be an objective truth! :). Yet as I was thinking about his face, I realized how beautiful it is to me. You might look at him and notice he is good-looking, but I get to see so much more. I see his lovely features and easy smile but I also see our shared history: I see our children, our years together, all our moments - both the good and the bad. In his beautiful face I see our commitment to each other, the marriage that sustains our love. I see him as the selfless father he is, giving and giving to our family, no matter his exhaustion level. I see in his face his deep desire to lead the people of his flock to Christ, and his commitment to truth. I see his integrity, his honesty and his wisdom. I also see his weaknesses and areas of struggle, and I love him all the more for them.
Through the window of his face and physical body, I see who he is. And many of his close friends could say the same of him to some degree. But I am grateful and blessed to see more. To look into his face and see things that no one else is able to see. God gifted me this man, and through him I am able to see true beauty. Through him and our marriage, I am able to see a little glimpse into heaven.
And it's beautiful.
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.
Song of Solomon 4:7