Three Years of Duke!

 Duke. Dukers. Dukey. Duckers. Dukertonian. Sir Duke. Dukey Baby. 

Ah, our little wild boy Duke is celebrating his third adoptaversary today.  Three years ago today, he came careening into our lives, and we have never been quite the same since. He's chewed more pillows, socks, couches, blankets, shoes, towels, and. . .basically anything he could get his teeth on.  He's barked enough to scare away a thousand bad guys. He's had the zoomies, racing through the house and on the furniture, mowing down anyone in his way. He's vomited (on the carpet, always on the carpet) more times than we count.  He's jumped up on us, acted a fool on car rides, attempted to rip our arms out of their sockets on walks, and made every effort to eat all of our Christmas ornaments off the tree.  And the pièce de résistance was the oh-so-memorable time he literally ate the pant leg of our friend while he was over for dinner.  

Yes, Duke.  Here we are, three years later, somehow still standing.  Duke is 3.5 years old now, and maybe, just maybe, dare I say it -- growing up a little?  I can't remember the last time he ate a pillow or furniture or  swiped the dishtowel, though he is still game for a sock in the laundry basket if he's feeling frisky (which is often).  These days he mostly listens when we tell him no, and after some initial excitement over our return home or after playtime, he likes to settle onto the couch and snooze, or keep a quiet eye on us through heavy-lidded eyes.  His favorite person is my husband, and he likes to snuggle up next to him while he is doing his prayers throughout the day (my husband is doing the praying, not Duke:).  He somehow instinctively knows when my husband is going to go on a run, and whimpers pathetically while he waits to have his leash put on.  He makes the kids happy, and he cheers all of us up if we're down.  

Three years ago today I had no idea what was ahead of us in the coming months (though I might have had some inklings).  But three years later, it appears Duke is a beloved member of our family, despite all my tears in the first few weeks that suggested otherwise.  Everyone who encouraged me in those early days was right:  he would indeed (mostly) chill out and become a good boy.  

So lift your glass (or doggie treat) to Dukey Baby: May we enjoy many more years of snuggles and doggy love with Duke. 

Birthday Gratitude

Yesterday was my second child's 24th birthday.  It was a lovely afternoon. . .low key and chill, but full of one my favorite things: family time.

As I've blogged about before, sometime in early parenthood, we started a birthday dinner tradition. Unless we're out of town, we have dinner at home, and I almost always make the birthday cake/dessert.  I'm no baker or cook, but it felt important to me to be at home for birthdays (even though I loooove eating out!).  We have lots of birthday memories gathered around our dining room table.  But my favorite part of our birthday tradition is that everyone (including grandparents or visiting family, and in later years, boyfriends/girlfriends of the birthday girl/boy) takes a turn sharing a thought or two about what they love/appreciate about the person.  These have been all over the place over the years (you can read two examples here and here) -- sometimes they're funny, often they're heartfelt, especially as the kids have gotten older, but they always make the recipient feel loved and appreciated. 

Today, our two college boys weren't home, but we were able to facetime them both in so they could share their love for our oldest son.  As usual, when all three boys are "together", hilarity ensues, and today was no exception.  They were laughing and ridiculous, and though we were hours apart, we felt close as we shared this long-standing tradition together.  And as has been true especially in recent history, everyone's answers made my heart swell with gratitude.  My son is living two "bonus" years at home as he completes his grad degree nearby, and everyone mentioned how much they've loved having him home, and how their relationships with him have grown deeper due to this time together as adults/young adults.  I don't often cry during this ritual, but I did today -- having my son home this last year especially has been invaluable to me.  His heart, his faith, his spiritual maturity, and the unique way he looks at things has been such a gift to me.  

We've come a long way from "he's nice to me!" or "she plays with me!", and the like.  Sharing one's heart in front of the whole family (and often others in attendance) can sometimes be challenging, embarrassing, or nerve-wracking.  But it's proven to be one of my favorite family traditions.  Everyone in attendance benefits from it.  I am so grateful for God's gift of family.

TPIR. IYKYK

If you are a child of the 80s, maybe you can relate:  every time I stayed home from school, no matter what I had or how unwell I felt, there was always one bright spot during the day.  If memory serves, that bright spot was at 11 am, eastern time.  As I lay on our brown plaid couch with whatever ailed me, my eyes would light up as my ears heard Johnny Olson (or later, Rod Roddy), say "So-and-so!  Come on down!  You're the next contest on the The Price is Right!', and the familiar tune filled the air. Yep, The Price is Right was one of my absolute favorite shows growing up.  I loved to guess along with the contests -- What does a box of Kraft macaroni and cheese cost in the state of California?  Will the yodeler fall off the edge of the cliff? Will the Plinko disc land in the $10,000 slot?  Will the big wheel land on $1.00 in the first round, or even more exciting, on the bonus round? Will a contestant in contestants' row get to reach into Bob Barker's coveted suit jacket pocket for a $100 bill for guessing the exact price (and not a penny over, of course!)?

My memories of TPIR (as true fans refer to it) span most of my life.  Even as I grew up, I still loved to catch the show whenever possible.  As I married into my husband's family, my father-in-law discovered how much I loved the show.  I used to joke that it was my life's dream to go to a taping of it before Bob Barker retired.  

One day, when my first two children were very small, my father-in-law offered to pay for flights for my husband and me to fly to LA to watch a taping of the show. We happily accepted his generous offer, sent away for tickets, and soon after flew to Los Angeles, leaving our kids with my in-laws -- another part of their kind gift to us. 

The show taping was an all-day affair.  You had to arrive at 5 am and get in line, as there was no guarantee that you would actually get into the taping; they distributed more tickets than were actually seats in the studio.  But my husband and I were there, and if memory serves, we were third or fourth in line.  After much debate and consultation with friends at home, my husband was wearing his clerical collar.  Everyone had come to the consensus that that might get him chosen to be a contestant.  (It did not.).  We stood in the dark with 300 of our new best friends, and hours upon and hours later in the late afternoon, we finally taped the show.  It was such a surreal experience, being on the set of a show I had watched virtually my whole life.  Seeing Bob Barker so near and watching all of the games happen in front of me was an experience I will never forget.  And even though we never got called up, we were visible several times during the show, since we were seated directly behind contestants' row.  It was such fun to watch back months later when it aired.

The other day I was putting something away in my husband's dresser and found this shirt.  I had no memory of him having it and asked him about it later.  He reminded me that we had bought it for his dad as a memento of the trip he had sent us on.  My father-in-law, slow to purge things, had kept it since 2002, and when he passed away, my husband kept it too.  

So now, as I look back on my silly "life's dream", it's pleasantly intermingled with memories of my dear father-in-law, who so lovingly sent us to California to see Bob and his renowned show.

Then and Now

Last week, a series of texts between my nursing-student college sophomore about his clinicals that day:

Son:  Clinicals were fine, starting to learn how to do an NG tube

Mom:  Oh wow!  That sure brings back memories!  I can also do an NG tube.  Or at least I used to be able to!

Son:  Well, you can't put one in a person, you can just do upkeep on one and do feedings, right?

Mom: No, Dad and I inserted one for you multiple times!

Son:  Ohhhh ok.

        That's fire!

        We are only learning how to do one through the nasal cavity right now.

Mom: long-ish explanation filled with memories, summed up like this:  Yes, we inserted one for you lots of times for the first two months you were home from the NICU.

Son:  That's kinda crazy. 

        I did not know that.

        Thanks, Mom and Dad.

        Ya'll goated fr

Then dear old mom proceeded to share lots more memories with my son about those days and months.  Over 20 years ago, it all seems like a bit of a blur and definitely surreal now.  I recall being at Riley and the NICU nurses telling us our baby might be discharged still on oxygen, apnea monitor, and with an NG tube.  And I recall immediately thinking, "Ohhhhh no thanks!! We'll just stay here until he doesn't need any of those things, thankyouverymuch!"  But, as time passed, the reality became clear that after seven weeks in the NICU, our little guy was ready to come home, still needing all three of those things I had politely declined several weeks earlier.  And miraculously, we discovered we could do hard and scary things, especially when it came to taking care of our child. 

So fast forward almost 21 years later, and our son, the little fragile baby who needed an NG tube, is now learning how to insert them on patients.  It feels like a bit of a full-circle moment to me. Nurses always played a huge part in our son's hospital stays, and he can call to mind many specific nurses who were "goated" as he would say.  During our text exchange last week, we were remembering one of them, and my final text to him about it all was this:

Mom:  Someday Isaac gonna be the goat to his patients. ❤

The Week in Pictures

Tell me you're a PreK teacher without telling me. . .This was my project last night after work.  Glue dots on flashcards for a tactile, sensory experience as my kiddos learn their letters and sounds.  Looking forward to introducing them to our literacy activities.  I gotta say it was strangely satisfying to trace each one! 

 

One of my best Christmas gifts!  A list of three of my faves for sure, although the glass of wine is in a tight race with a coke zero, but what rhymes with that?  

Ah, a Christmas Dukers.  Over break he was so good, even traveling with us to see our extended family and behaving so well.  I thought he was finally turning into a good boy!  But now that life's back to normal, he's been a little naughty again.  Sigh. I do think overall he's turning a corner. . .someday he'll get there!

I got this sweatshirt after Christmas and I love it! Ever since our trip to Ireland, I just love the sheepies and all the connections to Jesus, so when I saw this, it made me so happy.  Can't wait to wear it!